The Ups and Downs of Working With Your Spouse

In this episode of The Elevated Entrepreneur Podcast, we’re joined by Kayla Miller, one of the most requested guests and Raylen’s right hand in life and business. Kayla is a client retention specialist and the author and illustrator of the New York Times bestselling Click graphic novel series and co-author of its spin-off series Besties. Kayla studied at the University of the Arts in Philadelphia and graduated with a BFA in Illustration.

In this article, you will learn more about relationships, entrepreneurship, the ups and downs of working with your spouse, and how Raylen and Kayla are able to thrive. Read on!

How Raylen and Kayla met

Raylen and Kayla met the old-fashioned way on the Hinge dating app. Kayla was swayed because he loved books. They knew they were already winning because they both loved books. They started their relationship by reading and recommending books. Their dating was magical, but Raylen shares that when he wanted to be an entrepreneur. Breaking the news to Kayla was very hard because he didn’t know how she would react. His corporate career was falling, and he knew becoming an entrepreneur would be a big lifestyle change for them. Kayla’s response, “I always knew you would be an entrepreneur,” was the most shocking thing in Raylen world.

Their entrepreneurship journey has early successes and super low points from the build-up to where they are today. Raylen went from doing very well to asking for financial support from Kayla, her girlfriend at the time. He had never done it before, and it sacked, but everything worked out.

One of The Most Important Things in A Relationship

For you to thrive in a relationship, you both have to be going on the same path and open to change. Raylen and Kayla are both passionate about entrepreneurship, and their passion has been the drive to their success. There is no way they would have done it without each other.

Kayla shares that if you date someone with an entrepreneurship mindset, you have to be willing to be supportive of that. You may not get time to be lazy or be together all the time, but helping them now will be worth it later because you will be able to live the life that you want.

Creating A Weekly Relationship Check-in

Being in a relationship is a skill set, and most of us are not equipped to be a partner. However, having a relationship check-in can help you keep your relationship in context, especially as an entrepreneur. Sometimes it gets busy, and it’s easy to go on autopilot but have a weekly relationship.

Raylen and Kayla’s weekly relationship check-in was Kayla’s idea. She was inspired by Jennifer Hundis, who was doing it on her Instagram and changed the questions to fit them better. She realized that when they don’t do the weekly check-in that when they have issues with communication, their routine is off, and they fight over the dummies’ things. They also do a regular check-in of the check-in questions to ensure it fits what is going on in their life at the time. So, if they have something they want to be better at, they often add a related question to engage it in the week.

Growing Together in A Relationship Keeps You Thriving

The number one issue with relationships breaking up and not working out is that one person stops growing or starts growing. Most of the people who meet when they are stagnant, and one person starts bettering their lives, reading books, and working out, the other person gets insecure and breaks up.

Growing and trying new things together keep you glowing and at your best in your relationship.

Taking time off, giving yourself space, and spending time together

Taking time off from your work is important, but it would be more beneficial if you spend it doing the things you love than just relaxing all day. Most of us see binging on Netflix or taking a nap the whole day as relaxing, but it has no benefit to you. On the other hand, leisure is doing something you love that is not related to your work, such as painting, reading, or enjoying any of your hobbies.

In a relationship, both parties should have hobbies they enjoy together and with other people. Something that you can go off to and have fun outside work without thinking about work.